In front of my computer sits a notice board with a piece of paper stuck right in the middle of it. On that piece of paper, in different fonts & sizes, are ten sentences that I have affectionately coined my “Ten Commandments” — ten truths that I like to remind myself on a daily basis. They are (in no particular order) as follows:
- ONE: Fill up my skin with myself. Become empowered with my own magic!
- TWO: Always follow my dreams. Take chances!
- THREE: Have a healthy mind & a healthy body.
- FOUR: Be honest, integral & true — no matter what.
- FIVE: Love deeply. Always keep love in my heart & regularly remind people how special they are.
- SIX: Let go of comparisons!
- SEVEN: Put service to others first & foremost… money will always come.
- EIGHT: Live a creative, meaningful, extraordinary (not ordinary!) existence.
- NINE: Greet each day with a smile! Be enthusiastic & laugh at any opportunity!
- TEN: Show the world who I am!
Ultimately, these commandments reflect my core values & the things that are most important to me at this point in my life. I think it’s nice to draw ourselves back to what’s ‘real’ from time to time, especially when the idiosyncrasies & annoyances of daily life tend to creep in unwittingly sometimes! I have no doubt I will add or alter some of the commandments on my list as time goes on, but for now, I’m pretty happy with their message.
Soo… now it’s your turn! What are your Ten Commandments? What are your golden rules for living & loving life?
I would absolutely love to hear them! If you haven’t previously thought about articulating these ‘truths’, now is the perfect time to put it all out there! Sometimes writing things down can be really beneficial & spark off all kinds of inspirations & motivations; it’s just about giving ourselves a moment to sift through all the chatter in our minds & pondering what really matters to us.
You are all amazing (& don’t you forget it!)
Rach xxx
I just have one for you-
“Do as you will so long as you harm none”
Hey Rach, My commandments are:
* Always look at the positive side of a situation
* Do the things I enjoy everyday
* Be creative
* Constantly challenge myself with new tasks
* Respect and enjoy the views of others
Love you
Steph xoxo
rather than a list of commandments, i have a ten step plan. i read it whenever i feel like ive been lost or im unfocused on what i want.
First Step:
Having a foundation of strong friends is something I’m working towards from today on. I’m hoping to wean out the weaker friendships as I go and merely make them acquaintances. Acquaintances don’t have the power to hurt your feelings, and in not giving them this power, it liberates you to make better decisions about who you spend your valued time with. It’s rare that people notice the things that are real around them, and I’m not willing to take those chances anymore. In ten years it would be fantastic to know the same solid people, have that bracing to hold me up when I’m clearly falling down.
Second Step:
Create the job of my dreams. Don’t let other affect my success with slander. Enjoy my youth but understand the contribution of my time now to different things will be the ultimate knifes edge. Picking myself up out of my rut and pushing myself to do new things now will change what I plan for the future. Perhaps study at university, continue working where I am? advance? Who knows what will happen at the moment. But interests are changing with age. So creating the dream job will be a time process. One that needs encouragement and motivation. Its handy that I have friends to build this enthusiasm with me.
Third Step:
Create a scent. Leave it everywhere. Be the type of person that leaves a profound mark upon everyone I meet, and not because I’m rude or intolerable or for the way I look. I want it to be because I am remarkable, and there is no one like me, with my experiences and personality, quirks and qualms. I want to be infectious and incurable, and not for the centre of attention, but for intrigue and interest. Even if it’s only that I cared to see something in someone that no one else could.
Fourth Step:
I want to be at liberty to do as I please, and allow my partner the ultimate trust to do the same. I want to be as fond of him then as I am now and for it to be ‘us’ in everything together, but be allowed the separation an equal adult is supposed to have. Trust, in its basic simplicity is a source of life and freedom that is delegated only by free will and positive attitude. I hope this to be a reflection of who I am.
Fifth Step:
Regret free. Never accept that a flaw in my current self is something that I should dramatize to the point of distraction. Know that I make mistakes and learn from the repercussions, even if they are so serious that I am damaged, never accept that I am defeated and give in to feeling self pity. Never allow myself the indignity of not growing up, and growing passed things. Moving on and standing tall, no matter how heavy the burden of guilt becomes.
Sixth Step:
Learn to readjust. When life is going to fast, take a breath and put myself back into neutral. Keeping in line with all of my former steps, and re-prioritizing things in my life. Perhaps an over zealous social agenda has been in the foreground and it is indeed a quiet brain realignment that I need. Taking a step back allows someone to take two forward. In ten years I see myself many steps ahead, even if it takes a few steps back along the way to make life’s journey that little more intricate.
Seventh Step:
Becoming the role model. Achieving the things I set my mind to. Being precise, organized and incharge, but allow others the control to do the same with themselves. Be confident and assertive. Be diverse and not small minded. Allow others to feel the confidence and free will to make decisions that broaden their horizons, rather than deflate their souls. Bring people up, not to look back down, but to see that no judgement was passed and that the decisions they made to affect their lives were their own, and impressive ones at that.
Eighth Step:
Maintain a level of class and dignity. Never become someone whom you weren’t proud to be the first time. Drinking might affect your judgement, but never allow yourself to blame it for being undignified. It’s ok to let your hair down, I’m not going to preach a life of sobriety and never relax and be comfortable doing my own harm. But I have a like minded passion in enjoying what life has to offer from the upper echelons. A place I have not yet enjoyed. So class, and self pride are things I hope to have developed on my journey to the future.
Ninth Step:
Perfect health. Exercise and fresh air regularly, keep an intake of fresh fruit and vegetables. Stay on top of my game. Be fit and fresh and mentally alert. Surf more, skate more, get out of bed and go for a walk. No personal training. Eat better, be stronger, mentally and physically, especially emotionally. Know that it’s ok to cry, emotional relief is one of the most productive outlets of stress. Believe in the end goal to sustain motivation to become routinely active and happy. Enjoy this process.
Tenth Step:
Allow the grief of life’s downsides to subside. Deal with it. Suppression is the beginning of the end of a productive life style and habits. I’m sure that in ten years I will be subjected to many a tragedy, some close to me, some on a world scale. The magnificence of death and disaster is dramatized. It should hurt and I shall allow it to do so. Above all else, death is certain, and coping with this is the beginning of an ultimate life. Live to its potential knowing it could end. Appreciate the splendid and superb alongside the disastrous. Actions and events will be consequential. Alongside step five, this will be my achievement. To understand and not fear the end, as life will have been had, an adventure worth telling.
Sarah - great quote!
Stephanie - YAY! They sound wonderful :)
Harrie - Thank you so much for posting this! I seriously urge everyone to read this, some profound words of wisdom there.. Thank you for sharing this with us all. OK sweethearts, lets hear all of your lists — SPILL!
”Surround yourself with people who believe you can!”
Much Love, Megan
Megan — I believe YOU can honey! xxx